Relationship Counselling

Every relationship has challenges. You may have arrived on this page as a result of conflict within the partnership; abusive tactics like financial control; disagreements over parenting, or even loss and grief. Some seek couples therapy early in their relationship to set a strong foundation. Others desire a health check, to ensure they’re communicating clearly and with compassion. There is no one reason to seek couples therapy or relationships counselling, all are valid. 

My approach to helping couples connect and communicate

Couples therapy equips you with the tools you’ll need to become allies in each other’s healing. While working with you, I will bring awareness to how your personal histories, traumas, powers, rank, privileges and cultural norms show up in the ways you respond, relate to and care for each other.

I specialise in supporting couples who are navigating complex PTSD – one or both of you may be shouldering a traumatic childhood, or adult events that hinder your ability to speak the unspoken and hear difficult words. 

What to expect in couples counselling 

You’ll attend your session with your significant other. It’s important that you’re both present and invested in the process, as the couple is the client, not the individuals within the couple. Sometimes, you or your partner may see me alone if it’s in service of the relationship, but this is never without your partner’s knowledge.

How many sessions will we need and how often? 

Every couple is different. You may only wish to schedule a monthly session, or perhaps you would like to start with weekly and then see where things develop. This process is yours. 

Introducing my couples counselling toolkit 

I practise expert-led relationship methodologies in all of my couples counselling sessions. During our time together, I will draw on the work of the following relationship experts:

• Jan Dworkin, PHD – author of Make Love Better
• Esther Perel – author of Mating in Captivity and State of Affairs
• John Gottman of the Gottman Institute – The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work
• Marshall Rosenberg – Founder of the Non-violent communication technique.
• Imago Dialogue – for building great communication